NEW
YEAR RESOLUTION:
MY EXPERIENCE WITH TWO WOMEN EXTREMISTS
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Even
if I know the correct moral principles, how do I know which is right in these
my friends’ behavior? The life style which Jennifer Ikeiru and Euphemia Amara
exhibited last year has taught me lessons since their characters are exactly
opposite and each considers her own behavior the best.
My first encounter with Jennifer Ikeiru was at
Zik Library, University of Nigeria Nsukka. Beauty is not about having a pretty
face. It’s about having a pretty mind, pretty heart and pretty soul. She has
these features but her relation to me was distanced though that is her life. Aristotle
says that “Knowledge begins with a study of a particular thing” and the
solemnity of this particular encounter with her has exposed my own action which
I was acting in ignorance of. The more I approach her, the more she develops a
repelling spirit towards me and this increases the tenacity of my love towards
her. She is so prayerful that I hardly get her at home whenever I pay her
visit; every day is either she went to church or she attended prayer ministry.
Even when I visit in the evening, her parents will always tell me “if you want to
see Sis. Ikeiru, it is better you go straight to the church or you come late in
the night because she only comes home 2-3 times a week”. I would have visited
her in the church but her Christian denomination is quite different from mine;
I am a Roman Catholic while she is an Anglican .The first day she accepted my
morning greeting was the day I had a glimpse expression of heavenly glories on
my face and I really appreciated every bit of her
indifference. Yes, she is not friendly to people and hardly associate with
them- a character which I know I cannot define, but I remained faithful because
I did not want my ignorance to be as a result of my own negligence.
On
the other hand, Euphemia Amara; an elegant, fair, tall, beautiful girl, but
very troublesome. She has beauty all over her- but not everybody can see it. Her
beauty is not only seen by the eye, it is also felt by the heart and her
attitude toward me cast the shadow of her love on my heart. I once wanted to
praise her beauty but she said to me, “To be beautiful means to be yourself.
You don’t need to be accepted by others”. This particular statement impressed
me.
Outer beauty is what the eyes can see but
inner beauty can only be seen through the heart and because she clings to me in
love, my heart was able to receive her love through the sight. Two of us got
admission to study Medicine and Surgery the same year but prior to that we had
extra moral class at Bishop Alex Academy Nsukka and thanks to God both of us
succeeded. I fell in love with her due to the distractions that emanated from
her. In order to further refine the notion of my excusable ignorance, I did not
complain to her. I never cared to visit or call her but the reverse was the
case for her. She visited and called me regularly and even text to me massages
every day. Her dressing code was nothing to write home about. I once mustered
the courage and confronted her with abusive words but to no avail. I know she
learned that in a bit to pace with the advancement in technology.
Therefore,
the theme of my New Year resolution this year is, “placing my moral virtue between
too much and too little”.
For instance;
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Too little
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Intermediate
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Too much
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Self-deprecation
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Self-honesty
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Boastful
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Cowardice
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Courage
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Rashness
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Character is the ability to carry out a good
resolution long after the excitement of a moment has passed but I know without
God, I cannot carry it out. I will set out time table that will be guiding me
as the regulator. I will carefully follow my reasons, desire to do the right
thing at the right time. I will have a well formed character and then try to
know the proper goals in human life. I will estimate how to achieve those goals
in practice and probably the one who has the most experience in making tough
moral decision.
Some examples of the goals include;
1. Resolutions
to donate to the poor more often, whenever I have.
2. Resolutions
to improve my physical well-being: eat healthy food, lose weight, exercise more,
eat better, drink less alcohol, quit smoking, stop biting nails, get rid of old
bad habits.
3. Resolutions
to improve my mental well-being: think positive, laugh more often, enjoy life.
4. Resolutions
to improve finances: get out of debt, save money, make small investments.
5. Resolutions
to improve career: perform better at current job, get a better job, establish
own business.
6. Resolutions
to improve education: improve grades, get a better education, learn something
new (such as a foreign language or music), study often, read more books,
improve talents.
7. Resolutions
to improve self: become more organized, reduce stress, be less grumpy, manage
time, be more independent, perhaps watch less television, play fewer
sitting-down video games.
8. Volunteer
to help others, practice life skills, use civic virtue, give to charity,
volunteer to work part-time in a charity organization.
9. Get
along better with people, improve social skills, enhance social intelligence, make
new friends, and spend quality time with family members.
10. Resolutions
to pray more, be closer to God, and be more spiritual.
11. Be
more involved in sports or different activities.
So
help me God to achieve these my Resolutions...
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