I am always glad to
have tidings from the kind, faithful friend of my youth whose messages of love
made my heart yearn to see her again and again.
My hands were shaking
as I opened your letter yesterday at the University Stadium. Before I even read
it, I was in tears because I could remember how your voice was softer and
seemed to be shrinking when I first met
you in my first year at University of Nigeria Nsukka.
Was that on Valentine day? “Yes, It was.
Honestly, that was the
first time I saw hurt in your eyes. I do not know why I am writing this to you,
because I just met you many years ago. You know, the more you see someone the more you know
more things about him.
I expected your letter
before yesterday but you just surprised me, you seemed frazzled and a little
irritated when you handed the letter to me.
What do you mean when you say you love me?
What do you mean by these your words?
"I never loved anyone
but you, never with that love which you alone merit, which is yours alone,
which has always been in the depths of my heart, and will be there as long as I
live".
That secret colloquy I
think had become a dark night, and the chamber, lighted only by the feeble
glimmer of a lamp, in such a state of comparative gloom which would have been a
reminder to the young people at any time to provide themselves with more light,
but they did not think so. The young people have refused to understand the real
meaning of Love. There is an abysmal difference between love and sex. But now
they use them interchangeably.
Let me ask you again...
what do you mean when you say you love me?
If you say you love me,
can you die for me? Do you love me because of what you will get from me. Just
like many women would do, when they want something from you, you become their
sweetheart, their honey, and everything... Who is fooling who?.
Can you defined the
object of love when you say you love me? Is your object of Love the pleasure?
Is it the intrinsic goodness or utility?
When almost every
bloom of Spring had fallen, and only a few, withered and pale, clung to the
parent stem, a leaf exclaimed to its companions: “how feeble and useless are
these blossoms, though they have enjoyed but now they no longer. If she is
gentle and kind to everyman; she never says “No, I won't” or “No, get out,” and
never disagree with men. She keeps her clothes neat and clean, and always have quarrel
with her father and mother, and not even interested in God.
I shout with Eliakim
Littell, that Human hearts beat now as they did then, and are alike swayed by
doubts, and fears, and hopes, with LOVE reigning above all. Thou, ' YOUTH of
modern days, sighing in vain for some cold-hearted damsel; thou, dreaming
maiden, who worshippest one above all, calling this devotion, respect,
admiration—anything but love; and thou, calm philosopher, who hast suffered and
... He was not like those moody, sentimental lovers, always sighing and pining;
still less was he addicted to those...
Let me tell you the truth, if you say you love
me... Let your object of your love be intrinsic goodness not pleasure or
utility. Good people love each other because of what they are in themselves.
They do not use humanity in others as a means to another thing rather an end.
Friends are those who wish and do good for each other. Friends are those who
grieve and rejoice with another.
Since friendship lies
more in loving says Aristotle, it will seem that the virtue of friendship is to
love.
And lastly, let your
Love be sacrificial. As in John 3:16 For God
so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in
him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Remember that in 1 John
4:8 God is Love, if God is Love then if I tell you that I love you, then you
can substitute God with Love. In other words, I God You. Any love that has no
connection with God is not a perfect Love. I LOVE YOU. Happy Valentine Day and as
today marks the beginning of the Lenten period (Ash Wednesday) I wish you a wonderful
Lantern period By Onuh Justus Izuchukwu
Hope she will read it
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